As the kidlets get older, their questions have gotten a lot heavier. It’s impossible to prepare in detail, because I just never know what they’ll come up with, so I’ve “prepared” to just be honest and age-appropriate. If they know enough to ask the question, they shouldn’t be brushed off. I’m not a fan of the “I’ll tell you when you’re older” response…but that’s another blog post.
The other day, Aiden told me he didn’t think the new neighbor had a dad. Having spent a little time talking with his mom, I knew she was divorced and that the boy’s dad shows up infrequently. So I told Aiden that the neighbor had a dad, he just didn’t live with them. That led to the following conversation, in which I did NOT discuss infidelity or abuse as reasons for divorce because he’s SEVEN. I was floundering around, trying for simple and age-appropriate, remember!
Aiden: Mom, I can’t remember what divorce is. What is it?
Me: Well, it’s sad. It’s when a married couple decides they don’t want to be married anymore.
A: If it’s sad, why do they do it?
M: Well, sometimes there are a lot of problems and they just decide they can’t fix it. Sometimes one of them says they don’t love the other person anymore.
A: I can understand not being able to fix something, but I can’t understand not loving someone anymore.
I wanted to weep for joy that he can’t understand that.